An increasing number of couples are choosing destination weddings
over traditional "white gown and rehearsal dinner" weddings.
Destination weddings provide a fun opportunity to reunite family and
friends in a truly amazing setting or to celebrate a private
ceremony in an unforgettable locale.
With destination weddings representing approximately ten percent of
all weddings, it is easier to find more cruise lines and resorts
offering robust and attractively priced packages especially designed
for wedding parties.
But destination weddings take considerable planning, and the best
accommodations are not always available to last minute shoppers. The
earlier you begin to plan your wedding, and the more experienced and
professional assistance you have, the greater your chances of
pulling off a hassle-free, exotic wedding. Use this guide as an
introduction to destination weddings that you can take to your
travel agent to begin planning your own personal idea of perfection.
A professional travel consultant skilled in the details of
destination weddings is invaluable. Using your travel consultant as
a contact point provides you with a "one stop shopping" opportunity.
A travel consultant can ensure that you are presented with a range
of destinations and options, as well as assemble a travel package
for the wedding party that is the best possible value. An
experienced travel consultant can also provide you with wedding
planners local to your chosen destination to handle the logistics of
the ceremony and reception, however minimalist or involved.
The
most important decision in planning a destination wedding is the
location. Some couples choose a destination that they have already
vacationed or visited, while other couples choose somewhere new -
hoping to create brand new memories they will always relate to their
wedding day. Many have had a dream setting in mind since their
engagement. Some of the most popular destinations are the beaches of
the Caribbean, Hawaii and Mexico, while others prefer historic
settings or national parks. Extreme activity and sports-themed
weddings are also considered destination weddings, and couples can
take their vows while skydiving or scuba diving, or the ceremony can
take place at a very non-traditional venue like a NASCAR race. For
those who want to travel to Europe, consider England, which boasts
the shortest flight to Europe and romantic settings like manor
houses or castles, while Italy is known for scenic villa and winery
weddings. Couples with a more limited budget may enjoy destinations
like Las Vegas or Florida, which are popular for all-inclusive
weddings. A higher budget will afford an exotic wedding in Jamaica,
Fiji or Australia.
Travel dates and trip length are major factors in choosing a
location. Will you and your guests want to fly, drive or take a
train? Traveling out of the country will require more time as well
as passports or other documentation for couples and guests. Some
will choose to have their wedding at a closer location, and then
splurge on a dream honeymoon once guests head back home. Before you
are set on anything, though, check with your travel professional, as
some hotel or resort packages include a free honeymoon if the couple
commits to a certain number of rooms or guests for the wedding.
The couple planning a destination wedding must also take weather
and season into consideration. Beach weddings can be spectacular,
but weather conditions change quickly and can be uncertain. Couples
wishing to marry in the Caribbean have hurricane season to consider
and may opt for an island like Aruba, which is out of the hurricane
belt during the fall months. Finally, planning your ceremony during
a destination's peak travel season can mean crowded resorts and
perhaps a less intimate backdrop for the ceremony. Given your
special itinerary, your travel consultant can make recommendations
or help you narrow down your destination wish-list.
Destination weddings can range from amazingly inexpensive, and
far less than a traditional wedding, to very costly. Once you have
an idea of where you would like to be married, analyze your budget.
Carefully assess the costs of travel, accommodations, activities and
meals. Decide how many guests you can truly afford at the wedding
and whether or not you will pay for any part of their travel. If you
are hoping for a crowd of guests and/or expect them to pay for any
expenses, planning early and sending travel information well in
advance is a must!
If cost is an important factor, your travel agent can offer a
variety of options in any destination. It is possible and often very
desirable to take a minimalist, stress-free approach to your
destination wedding. In many instances, all you'll need are a
justice of the peace or similar official, a wedding license, and a
romantic spot. Don't let price be the ultimate determinant of your
dream ceremony. Be creative.
At home or in an exotic locale, the guest list can pose problems.
Many couples choose to elope and skip invitations. They simply send
an announcement when they return home and maybe throw a fun party so
everyone can still get together and celebrate. Other couples find
that destination weddings give them the option to invite only a few
close friends or family members, so they are forced to reduce their
guest list a very manageable number of special invitees. And still
others will send invitations out to a larger number, placing the
decision solely in guests' hands (and perhaps their wallets) to
attend the wedding. Keep in mind that some resorts only allow guests
over age 16 or 18, so an adult-only location may not work for guests
with families.
Who can you expect to attend a faraway wedding? Sometimes the
RSVP's are quite surprising. Many who are invited actually attend in
order to combine their own vacation with the couple's special day.
Conversely, some may not have the financial means or the ability to
take off work to travel. Most hotels will offer special room rates
to couples and their guests or a certain number of rooms may be part
of the wedding package itself.
Give some forethought to how long guests will stay at the wedding
site. Couples can travel alone and have guests arrive a day or two
later, or everyone can travel together as a group. If guests arrive
a few days before the wedding, fun options are arranging a group
tour or sightseeing in smaller groups, if you have a lot of people,
or guests with different interests. You may also plan nothing at
all, and allow guests some quiet vacation time of their own before
the wedding; in this case, consider sending along a destination
guide (often available free from your travel agent) so they can
choose their own itinerary.
As you might imagine, the legal requirements for far-away
nuptials vary greatly by destination. Most popular destination
wedding locations in the United States and abroad have streamlined
the process and provide very solid information on their consular or
official tourism web sites. Some destinations require a residency
period before you can be married. In places like France and Fiji,
couples may have to spend up to 40 days in residency before the
wedding, which can make things very difficult and much more
expensive. Other locales only require a waiting period of 3 days or
less and are far more manageable. Your travel consultant will assist
you with these details, and again - this is where having an expert
help really counts! There are no end of stories of brides who end up
with a great honeymoon, and a civil ceremony that follows at home
because they were not prepared.
Couples will need documentation before they travel, and often a
few months before the event itself. Required documents may include
birth certificates, passports, previous marriage certificates or
divorce decrees if applicable. Your local contacts will provide
information on requirements for blood tests or applications for
licenses. American diplomatic and consular officers are not
permitted to perform marriages. Marriages abroad are almost always
performed by local civil or religious officials. In general,
marriages that are legally performed and valid abroad are also
legally valid in the United States, but in any event, inquiries
regarding the validity of a marriage abroad should be directed to
the attorney general of the state in the United States where the
bride and groom live.
Minimum marriage age varies from one country to another. Persons
under the age of 18 must, as a general rule, present a written
statement of consent executed by their parents before a notary
public. Some countries require the parental consent statement to be
authenticated by a consular official of that foreign country in the
United States. In short, don't underestimate the rules and
regulations you'll need to address, sometimes far in advance. And
you always have the option of marrying at home before or after a
non-binding ceremony at your destination - you may find this to be
the best choice to ensure that you'll enjoy every minute of the
trip.
Once you choose a destination and have a good idea what it will
cost and who you are going to invite, you can start planning the
ceremony details. Wedding coordinators can make a lot of the
arrangements, and many resorts and cruise lines even have their own
wedding departments. If an on-site wedding planner is not available,
think about hiring your own planner to help with details, research
and correspondence. Destination wedding planners will often offer
traditional choices for flowers, food and music to fit a wide
variety of budgets. Wedding details that may have taken months to
plan for a hometown wedding can often be chosen in just a matter of
minutes at the destination itself. If you are on a budget, remember
that many hotels, beaches, outdoor settings and the like are
inherently decorated or beautiful in their own right - this is one
step you may be able to skip.
Regardless of your location, however, many of the decisions
remain the same. Do you want a rehearsal dinner the night before? Do
you want a formal reception or just a table for two at a romantic
restaurant? Do you want to wake that morning and leisurely get
dressed and married or do you want to enjoy a spa treatment or
massage? Music can be planned in advance or chosen on site, or some
couples may choose no music at all and rely on things like
waterfalls or ocean waves as the backdrop. Food can be catered and
include ethnic or theme-oriented foods applicable to the locale or
setting.
Like any wedding, attire can be formal and fancy or simple and
casual. Clothing can reflect local culture and tradition, or you may
prefer to still "walk down the aisle" in a more elegant wedding
gown. If flying, formal wear like a wedding gown or tuxedo should be
packed as a carry-on, if possible. If it is very important to arrive
with particular items of clothing or other accessories, carry them
onto the plane and avoid the heartbreak of a lost gown - or plan the
wedding with time to allow for delivery of lost luggage, just in
case. To avoid traveling with wedding wear, clothing can be shipped
separately and in advance (this may result in a small storage fee at
the hotel), or attire can sometimes be rented at the hotel or
resort.
Photography, video and flower choices are abundant and often
quite similar to traditional wedding choices. Couples can choose to
hire a photographer, or they can simply rely on guests to capture
more impromptu photos. Many all-inclusive wedding plans also include
a photography package and video. Some videos will even include local
footage of the area, like dolphins swimming or a video introduction
of the resort or island. Flower arrangements are usually provided by
a local florist and can often be chosen before you arrive or on site
from photos and catalogs. Couples can also choose from popular
pre-written wedding vows or write their own.
Be sure to inquire whether you need to supply your own witnesses
for the ceremony, or whether the resort can provide them for you.
Also remember that many wedding packages do not include gratuities
for services provided by ministers, bartenders or transportation
companies, so budget accordingly.
As you finalize arrangements, remember that some of the same tips
that apply to traditional weddings also apply to destination
weddings: avoid over-planning and allow ample free time for you and
your guests to enjoy the wedding. Group activities can be a fun way
to spend time with everyone, but don't overwhelm yourselves or
guests with a rigid schedule or a strenuous activity the day before
the wedding. Most importantly, remember that this is your day. Plan
your dream wedding and make it your own. That's what destination
weddings are all about. |